I went through sorority recruitment my freshman year of college to appease my grandmother’s dying wish. No joke, my grandma’s dying wish was for me to go through recruitment.
I won’t lie: I did not want to go through recruitment. I never saw myself as a sorority girl. However, if I could go back in time, I would do it all over again.
Although I am not in my sorority anymore due to financial reasons, I want to see every woman going through recruitment to succeed. So here are some tips on how to survive and thrive during recruitment.
Be You. Cliché? Yes. However, I can promise that finding a “home away from home” will be next to impossible if not everyone is genuine and real about who they are. I remember thinking how not a single chapter would want me. Then I walked into the sorority I would call home. Off the bat I met the woman who would become my big, Noelle. Not only did she look like me (people in the sorority thought we were related), but we bonded over things that had nothing to do with recruitment. It was her that I based my future recruitment strategies around. Thanks to her I now have two amazing littles who I spoil.
Be Open. Be open about what you want in a sisterhood. Be open to the idea that the sorority you want may not be the right fit. Be open to meeting new people. Essentially, walk into each room with an open mind. The chapter that chose me, knew they were my home before I did. Again, I was going through recruitment just to make Grandma happy. I didn’t plan on actually accepting my bid. For women already in a sorority, be open to the fact that not every girl is going to want your chapter. They may not like you. They may not even want to be in a sorority and are only there because they got roped into it by a friend or roommate. Be open to how your chapter works and why you genuinely love it. Don’t lie and say it’s all sunshine and daisies. We all know that’s not true.
Know Your Values. Each sorority is different and have different values. Think of what philanthropies they support. Being a sorority woman isn’t about what you chant at Greek Week, or what colors and symbols you rock at the end of Recruitment weekend. It’s about where your morals and values align with other women and their values. Sorority women, remember what values your chapter holds. It’s never about the quantity of girls you recruit but the quality. Think about if the girl in front of you would actually be a good fit.
Be Realistic. Sororities are expensive. They take up a lot of time. I say all of this with love for the Greek community, but it’s true. Each chapter has dues. Each chapter has high expectations of its members. When you accept a bid, you’re agreeing to dedicate time and money to the organization. Sorority women, again, don’t paint your chapter as being perfect. Be realistic about what it looks like and what your chapter expects from new members. Honesty is the best policy.
Don’t be disappointed. Not every woman gets accepted into a sorority and not every woman gets accepted into the sorority of her choice. Despite a common misconception, if you’re not happy with your bid, you don’t have to accept it. If you don’t get a bid it’s not the end of the world. There is always open recruitment throughout the year and other organizations.
Sorority women, your “Rush Crush” may not join your chapter. Mine didn’t. It’s OK. You may not get a lot of girls this time. That’s OK too.
Ultimately, while Recruitment is a fun time, it’s also stressful for every woman involved. Here is my last bit of advice: enjoy it. Yes, it's long nights and worries, but it’s also a time to meet new people and find friendships that will last a lifetime.
I may not be a registered member of my sorority anymore, but in my heart those women will always be my sisters. I hope each woman finds her path this weekend.